Care is indeed a critical ingredient for any relationship to be a success. Guys need it and ladies also need it. Care is known as a feeling  of concern or interest; attaching importance to something; looking after and providing for the needs of another person; it is the process of protecting someone or something and providing what that person or thing needs. Care generally has to deal with paying attention to someone; care is a key ingredient in love. One can’t claim to love you and yet do not care about you. It is actually impossible, for where the treasure of a man is his heart is there. If you are a treasure to the person you are in love with, care will naturally follow.

A plant they say will actually grow in the direction of its source of light; we need focus not feelings to achieve care in a relationship. Relationship I must say is more than just a feeling, it is a responsibility, and it takes commitment to show care. Let me say this to young people, you should be refrained from getting attached to someone if there is no true commitment because it will lead to heartbreak. Don’t kindle the fires of love when you are not ready for a serious commitment because ladies get easily moved with little care.

I actually gave an acronym to care which I really want us to take alphabet by alphabet:


If someone shows kindness, caring, and a willingness to help others, they’re showing compassion. This is a word for a very positive emotion that has to do with being thoughtful and decent. Giving to charity takes compassion. Volunteering to work with sick people or animals takes compassion. When you have compassion, you’re putting yourself in someone else’s shoes and really feeling for them. Anytime a disaster like a hurricane or earthquake hits, others will feel compassion for the victims. When you feel compassion for someone, you really want to help out. Compassion is key in a relationship, love is indeed compassionate. You can’t claim to love someone or care without having compassion for such one. Jesus Christ is a good example, He had compassion for the people when they are hungry, and he feed them and eventually died for them.


“May I have your attention please? When you ask that question, you are asking people to focus their mental powers on you. Whether they do or don’t depends on your next words. You’ll have their full attention if you say, “Here’s $100.” The noun attention can also refer to an interest in something or someone. You probably pay attention in school when your teachers bring up topics in which you are personally interested in. You can also shower attention on those you love or indulge. The word also refers to “standing at attention,” as in the military — by standing up straight, arms down at the sides, and feet together. Everyone needs attention and where ever anyone gets the attention from, they hardly want to leave that place or that person. Human beings generally want to be seen and need people around them, no matter how hard you think a lady or a guy is, attention can melt such one.


Respect is a way of treating or thinking about something or someone. If you respect your teacher, you admire her and treat her well. People respect others who are impressive for any reason, such as being in authority — like a teacher or cop — or being older — like a grandparent. You show respect by being polite and kind. For a lot of people, taking your hat off is a show of respect. When people are insulted or treated badly, they feel they haven’t been treated with respect. You can respect things as well as people. Respect shows care and love. Men love respect a lot, as a matter of fact men never separate respect from love, a man believes if you respect him then you love him. Men generally have ego and want to rule, give him all the respect he deserves. Men, ladies deserve some respect too, don’t become the lord of the house, listen to her own views too, don’t speak to her with abusive words, or try hitting her at all. Respect they say is reciprocal, so show some respect to your lady or guy and you will earn his or hers too.

E- Encouragement

When you help someone by offering positive words of support and approval, that’s encouragement. It must have been the words of encouragement you gave in the airport lounge that helped your friend board the plane. We all go through one issue or the other in life, so we need encouragement in times when we are devastated or faced with an issue. Ladies generally are mostly emotional so they need words of support to encourage them and give them hope. You will really show a woman care by giving her words of encouragement and putting smiles on her face.

Love indeed is more about care. Many times ladies are naturally caring except few; even the Bible says husband should learn to love their wives. As a man learn to be caring, don’t get so busy that you forget she exist. A few minutes call, little text messages can really be of help to show her you really care.



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Saleh Victor
Saleh Victor is is a leadership and personal development coach a relationship expert writer, an innovative story teller, a blogger, and an online entrepreneur. He runs a podcast channel where he inspires people against mediocrity and becoming leaders in their sphere. Victor is a young man with passion for change and transformation, he wants to affect so many lives as he can by making ordinary men become extraordinary achievers in life.



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